I want to be an egg donor. Yep, you heard it right: I, who do not have a baby of my own, want to donate my eggs to a couple going through IF hell.
I checked into egg donation after our first failed IVF cycle. My motivation was two-fold at the time:
1. Help another infertile couple
2. Finance part of our next IVF cycle
I actually spoke with an RE, who didn't feel it would be "emotionally healthy" for me to donate eggs before we have a child of our own. So...I didn't donate eggs, we just rung up the credit cards a bit more.
Now, we're past IVF and working on IUI with donor sperm. Although the first attempt wasn't successful, I have complete faith that it will work soon. The gift this anonymous man is giving us is so amazing. The chance at a family...does it get any better than that?
So now I'm at the point where I want to donate my eggs at no cost to the right people. I want to help a couple who is going through IF hell. If the roles in our situation were reversed and my eggs were bad, there is absolutely no way we could afford an egg donor...an extra $5,000-10,000+ on top of IVF costs. I can't imagine being in that position...knowing that there is still a chance at carrying a child, yet not being able to do it. Sure makes our swimmers look dirt cheap!
Am I going to sign up to donate tomorrow? No. After we have our first child? Probably. It's definitely one to add to the "things to do before I die" list.
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11 bazillion swimmers:
I know I've thought the same thing, but never actually took action. If I had a relative in that position, I would have volunteered in a heartbeat. On the other hand, who would want my MS eggs...
This is such a selfless act of kindness...wow, I am just blown away. Very, very brave and kind of you--karma is gonna be good to you=)
That is so admirable of you. I think it is wonderful that you want to help change others' lives in a positive way, as your donor has done for you.
Hey, I happened to surf on over to your blog from Trace's. I completely understand your wanting to donate your eggs, I have often thought about it in exactly the same way. I have no attachment to them what-so-ever and it would sure take a bite out of the costs of paying for treatments wouldn't it? Then I found sites promoting donating your eggs for free and I thought "If I already had at least one baby (that I birthed) I would do it for free". Nothing like going through this to bring out empathy for others, huh?
That is such a great thing. I haven't really considered egg donation since back around 2000 when I figured out they didn't want my eggs because I was too chubby. I think though that it's awesome that you can and want to do this.
(found you from the creme de la creme list....)
We're dealing with male factor, too, and I have thought often lately about the possibility of doing donor egg. Our situation just naturally leads to thoughts of other couples who are suffering, and I think of the eggs I have that are currently just going to waste. Somehow that doesn't seem right.......
I feel like I could have written (at least part of) this. My husband has CBAVD and I am considering doing the shared cycle IVF thing, but I have also had similar thoughts about wanted to do it because I empathize completely with other infertiles.
I have been considering the same thing. Knowing how much this whole thing hurts, I want to do something to help ease that for others.
Good luck, and I hope things work out for both you and your recipient couple!
Bea
That is very admirable of you. Many people don't think of others' suffering. It is very nice of you to feel as though you can pass on some goodness to others. That will make all the difference in the world to someone else as you probably know.
Incredibly selfless. I have come over from C de la C (and from my sweet friend Trace) and want to tell you that I think it is amazing that you want to do that. We are in the process of considering embryo donation and we are always amazed to hear of couples willing to donate in such an amazing way. Nice to know there are people like you out there.
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